The Power of Goals

The power of goals is that we create our own destiny!

So many of us including myself get sidetracked by life and end up doing things we think we should be doing instead of things we want to be doing. Many of us feel we don't have the power to do what we want to do. But we do!

Change your language. It is not I should do this, it is I MUST do this!

Everything in our life starts with a thought. While listening to Anthony Robbins Goal Setting Workshop I realized that I haven't really had clear defined goals for my life in years. No wonder I wasn't where I wanted to be!

My last real goal was to graduate college. I worked so hard to attain this and for some reason after I did this I believed that everything else would just fall into place. How very wrong I was!

People don't tell you how hard life and reality truly are!

Setting goals is not just about thinking them up. Actually sit down and write them out!

Operate from a clear level of belief and faith. Write down a plan of action.

Anthony Robbins says that the most successful people focus on the end result of their goal, what they will gain, NOT what they have to do to get there. If we spent too much time focused on the getting there we probably would never get anything done!

For example Anthony asked several business owners would they go back and do it all over again knowing what they would have to go through to attain success. All of them reflected with a laugh and said no! Because in the beginning they were focused on the goal and the end result NOT what they had to do to get there.

The reasons why you want to obtain something comes first, the answers come second.

The reason why goals work is-

• Thoughts are things, what you focus on is created. If you constantly focus on debt and bills in your life, you will get more debt and bills! On the other hand, if you focus on change and progress that's what you will manifest in your life!

• When you set a goal, your mind begins to feel the dissatisfaction in your present life. You will become even more aware that you simply cannot live the way you have been living and will do what it takes to reach these goals

Use goals as pressure-setters in your life. Welcome it! Don't hide from it.

Use it to motivate yourself. Ever since I started listening to these tapes and changing the direction in my life in other areas, I have begun to feel a sense of urgency. I have clearly defined what I want in my life now and I will stop at nothing to get it!

Set high expectations for yourself. Link pressure to seeking pleasure and link pain to failing and feeling more pressure!

What are you waiting for? Start now!

Start with WRITING down your personal development goals.

What would you like to become? What will be your skills, abilities, career, places to go do or be?

Spend about 5-7 minutes writing down these goals.

When finished go back over the goals and write a number that represents when you want this goal to be achieved in years beside the goals.

For example if you write down I want to be a business owner and you want to achieve this within 3 years write a 3 by this statement. If you wrote down I want to be happy and you want to achieve this in 1 year, write a 1 by this statement and so on.

After completing this go back and look at all the goals you want to achieve within one year and write down WHY you want to achieve these goals.

The WHY of going after something is just as important as WHAT and it will keep you focused why you cant live without this goal in your life any longer.

The second step of this exercise is to focus on your THINGS GOALS. These goals are for pure pleasure and can be materialistic. It could be a house by the beach or a boat etc.

What do you want to have, do, or create?

Make a list and repeat the same steps as in exercise one. Go back and write next to each goal a number that represents how many years it will take to achieve this.

Go back and take out the things you want to focus in one year and write down why.

The Third step of this goal writing exercise is to write down your Economic Goals.

Focus on what you want your net worth to be, how will you spend it, will you give it charities? get an IRA?

Repeat the steps you did with the first two exercises with writing down a number by each goal.

Start now!! Get some momentum in your life! Don't continue to live like a robot. Take control.

The Beatles

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Progress & The Beatles

So where am I now since the preceding days have so quickly flown away?

Where am I currently on my path to success?

Slow and steady wins the race.

An old saying but so true.

Every day I am hacking away at it.

The business plan is now about halfway complete. I am taking my time with it and making sure I have done my research.

Right now I am in Barnes & Nobles, my new home away from home. The past few times I've been here they have been playing The Beatles non stop. It's like Barnes knew I was coming. It really cant get any better.

Not sure how I feel about the re mixing of The Beatles Songs, taking out all the static in the background etc. Seems to take away some of the authenticity.

John Lennon is the third person I want to meet in heaven. Have you ever felt some strange cosmic connection to someone you've never even met? Someone you know you in a million years never would? That's John Lennon for me.

I don't care what most people say, Yoko did not break up The Beatles! They had one of the most amazing loves to ever exist. They would die for each other! How many people can you say that about in your life?

Yesterday I found a few possible spaces for my business. I made some calls to get some pricing-it is pretty reasonable here where I live.

Every day I feel like I'm getting closer to my dreams.

Every day I am feeling so much better in so many ways.

I am still doing my "hour of power" as Anthony Robbins calls it. Every morning I remind myself of all the things I am grateful. An attitude of gratitude will bring you many things.

Thinking positive, thinking success, thinking freedom...

I am the egg man! I am the Walrus......

Change The Meaning

Neuro-associations are quite a powerful thing.

As discussed previously we link things together whether it be positively or negatively and these neuro-associations shape our life and destiny.

The good thing is that we can actually change them.

How?

Anthony Robbins says there are three steps you have to take toward changing the meaning and making it last.

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1. Get Leverage on yourself.

In other words, you must get to the point where you feel that NOT changing would be massively painful. Your inner feelings should say, I MUST do this, not I should or might change this or that. You must hit your absolute bottom.

I know that is how I felt before I embarked on this journey of change. I decided that I MUST change my life. I could no longer go on the way I was.

2. Interrupt your present limiting associations.

Do something unexpected during the negative reaction, interrupt the pattern.

Anthony Robbins gave a good story as an example.

A woman came up to him at a seminar and she started telling him about her current problems in her marriage. She was very upset and crying. She obviously linked pain to her marriage. Anthony proceeded to take the glass of water in his hand and splashed some water on her in the midst of her crying. Not surprisingly, she was shocked and couldn't understand what he was doing. He of course was interrupting her pattern of negative thinking about her marriage.

He also mentioned another way to interrupt a pattern could be to make an unexpected noise during the association. Whatever it takes to take your main off of the focus of the negative association.

3. Condition yourself to have a new and empowering association

For example recently I found myself putting off writing certain parts of my business plan. I was delaying it because I was linking that part of the plan to pain-it seemed overwhelming to me. So I started thinking of my end goal and what I really want out of life which is to someday live at the beach. I started linking beach with business plan and repeating this in my head, actually visualizing it. I realized how it changed my whole entire feeling about it. I have since been able to tackle that part of it.

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Think of at least one thing you want to change in your life but have been putting off.

What will it cost you if you continue to put it off?

What will you gain if you make it happen?

What are some ways you could interrupt the pattern?

What is a new association you could have for it?

Looking within

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John Edward

I would like to talk about my beliefs in the after life which I have been doing a lot of reading on in the past months. Stick with me, it does tie into my previous topics.

I have always been a big fan of Lisa Williams

http://http://www.lisawilliams.com//

She is amazing and the real deal. If you have any doubts about mediums watch some of her sessions.

I am also a huge fan of John Edwards.

http://www.johnedward.net/

I don't know completely what I believe about the after life but I absolutely believe there is one.

Through my readings I have come across a common theme that mediums have reported as well as people who have experienced near death experiences.

This common theme is that there is a life review when you reach the other side. You are shown the good and bad things you have done with your life.

One story really stuck with me.

A man who had a near death experiences was being shown his life review. He was taken back to a time when he was a teen-ager and he intentionally keyed and damaged a strangers car. He was shown and experienced the repercussions of his actions to the extent that he was shown the owner of the car going home and telling his wife what happened and the man was shown the pain he caused the owner and his wife and he actually felt it.

The man came back to life and was inspired to consider others feelings when he took action even in the small ordinary things in life.

You probably think yes keying a car is wrong but it could have been much worse. There are some really sick people out there. True.

In this instance however it was enough to show the man his actions to get him to change the way he treated others.

Wouldn't it be great if we all considered others through our own actions?

What if we lived our life this way every day?

Why does it take such a profound occurrence such as the man's near death experience to inspire us to be better people?

Why does it take a tragedy to push us in another direction?

Personally, if I had not experienced the loss of my Dad, I would not have been compelled to explore the subject of the after life.

I would not have thought as deeply about this supposed life review we might receive after passing.

I would perhaps not be considering others in my actions.

Perhaps I would be continuing in my life along the same selfish path I was so comfortably used to.

It was through my readings and inner reflection that I came to the following conclusion;

Life really is a test. And one of the bigger tests is do we really get it?

Do we know that what truly matters is the spiritual parts of life and not the materialistic?

If we get so caught up in our careers and "making it" do we not see how we are missing the bigger picture?

Do we really get that being the best person that we can possibly be to ourselves and to others is what truly matters?

Things are not what matters and we cannot take them with us.

So why on earth am I sitting here writing a blog on being successful and escaping the 9-5?

Well, unfortunately we live in a society where money is the ruler. Money decides whether we eat or where we live. We have to eat and we have to lay our heads somewhere every night.

Some people want money so they can accumulate things like a nice car, a huge house, nice clothes etc.

I want to obtain financial freedom because I want just that-FREEDOM.

I want to pass the test of money and survival. I want to be able to put all of my energy into the things that really do matter like helping others and giving back. I dont want to worry anymore how I am going to pay this bill or that bill.

I would like to experiecne more out of life, travel, open my mind, learn, grow, help, inspire.

I used to always think that money ends up in the hands of the wrong people. People who just don't care about others. That's not entirely true but sometimes it is. If I had all that money there are so many people I would help! I would be one of those people that money fell into the right hands.

Greed is not admirable. Selfishness is a waste of time.

Giving and helping others are two of the things I would like to see in my life review.

What would you like to see in yours?